Beautiful Women over 50: Vivian Gold


Vivian Gold is a friend of mine that I met through real estate years ago. She happens to be a gifted massage therapist who lives in Asheville (contact info is below in case you feel like you need to do something nice for yourself), and has agreed to answer some questions for Oops50.

Enjoy!  Sadhvi

1. What was the first album or 45 record you ever bought?

My first 45 was ABC by The Jackson Five.

My first LP was the Led Zeppelin one with Stairway to Heaven. That song still mesmerizes me today.


2. What is the one thing that you have to have on that makes you feel good when you leave the house?

When I go out, I have to have my lips looking good. In the moment, I really like ZUZU’s lipliner by Gabriele. I usually go for a neutral shade, and the one I’m using now is called “innocence”. Then I use a lipstick and my fave is also one from Gabriele’s. I hate to put chemicals and junk in or on my body, so I buy these at the heath food store, and they are great.


3. What’s your favorite comfort food?

My favorite comfort food in the summer is organic ice cream and in the winter it’s root veggies and lots of good carbs.

4. What do you consider your favorite breakfast?

Well, the thing that I have to have each morning is really good and really strong organic coffee with Almond Breeze Almond/Coconut Milk..  Not just Coconut Milk.. It’s not creamy enough for me.. But the Almond/Coconut is.. The best organic coffee I’ve found for the price and taste is Whole Foods  “360 Pacific Rim”, which is their own brand.


After that, I juice some veggies or make a smoothie with some spirulina powder, bee pollen, ground flax seeds…and add things that I have around that I like.

5. What is your favorite and least favorite thing about being over 50?

My favorite thing about being over 50 is my acceptance of “life on life’s term”. I feel more grounded. All my life’s experiences and lessons I was learning over the years, which might not have connected at the time, have integrated in the last couple of years into a sense of knowing and peace.

My least favorite thing about being over 50 are the little imperfections on my body like my freckles, which used to look great on my sun drenched face and body, but are now big from too much sun in my life. I also have two little mole/tags on my neck that my father had too, funny enough, and keeping up with waxing my unwanted hair.

Vivian Gold LMT.
Global Vision Healing Arts
Massage and Wellness Therapy
Asheville, North Carolina
(828) 691-6916

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Oops50: The Recovery Quilt

Minda Brown Jaramillo

My sister, Minda, is the Manager of Women and Families Services at Recovery Resources a nonprofit community-based healthcare organization in Cleveland that helps people triumph over mental illness, alcoholism, drug and other addictions. When she told me about the quilt project she was working on with women in recovery, I wanted to know all about it.   Here she is sharing that experience with us.   – Annice 

“Quilts are rituals of life.  Along with shelter, the quilt safeguards the human body during its greatest vulnerability, sleep.  Learning to make quilts indicated, at the same time, that a girl was ready to join the company of women.  The quilt symbolized practicality and survival, an acquired knowledge of recycling and reuse.  Quilts relate human experience bursting with ideas, dreams, knowledge, courage and ingenuity.”   William Arnett and Paul Arnett

“ Mama made a lot of quilts for keeping us children warm.  I remember sleeping under one of them every night.  Cold nights, maybe a bunch. Made them things out of coverall pants or anything she could find.   After clothes couldn’t be fixed no more-skirts, dresses-it all end up a quilt.”   Pearlie Pettway, Quiltmaker, Gees Bend Alabama.

The inspiration for Recovery Resources’ quilt making began with thoughts of a project for our women in recovery to work on together.  The project would create an environment where our women could get together and form an attachment in a way they may not have experienced before.  In talking with a group of my women friends, the idea of making a quilt was revealed.  One of the women, Sherri Katz, volunteered to facilitate the project. Having a degree in Fiber Arts, she was the perfect person for the project.  We first introduced the women to the idea of quilt making by showing them the award-winning documentary, The Quilts of Gees Bend .


Gees Bend, Alabama, is a small peninsula that was home to the Pettway Plantation.  The quilt makers are all descended from generations of slaves who worked that plantation; they were so embedded in the community they created for themselves that they remained there after the Civil War, the Great Depression, and throughout the Civil Rights movement.  The community was declared one of the poorest places in the United States, and the descendants still remain there.  These women struggled to subsist on what they could produce for themselves and their families.  They raised a number of children, farmed on leased land, lived in log homes without water and electricity, and held their families together through prayer and a profound sense of community and love.

The method for quilt making is a long and arduous one.

Recovery Quilt

The Recovery Quilt is primarily composed of re-purposed fabric and denim combining collage, appliqué, embroidery and fabric pens.  Some women worked diligently and assisted others in completing their quilt squares, while others worked more haphazardly, wanting to finish the task quickly without taking the time to think creatively.  Some women did not complete their quilt squares at all.

Common characteristics of addiction are that it robs one of the desire to complete goals, creates an inability to concentrate on the task at hand, and steals one’s self esteem.  Addiction creates an emotional challenge that many are not prepared for.  Many of the women were fearful to start something they would not be able to be successful in completing.  For some, this was true.  For most, it created an opportunity to work on a project in a supportive, nurturing environment that fostered creativity, encouraged camaraderie, and challenged their thinking about who they are and what their recovery means to them, their families, and their community.

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Oops! No Discount for Folks over 50 at KMart!

Annice hiding behind sunglasses

Well folks, it looks like is in trouble.  So many people are reading our blog, including Kmart (representing Sears Holding Management Co.) lawyers because we got a letter from them electronically and a hard copy delivered by FedEx today.

It seems, in our post Do you know about the Discounts for Baby Boomers dated Feb. 28, 2012, we included Kmart on a list of retailers who give a 20% discount for people over 50.  Well, I’m not sure if tons of folks were flocking to Kmart as a result of our blog post, but somehow their lawyers found out about it and wrote us a letter stating that:

1) We must remove the incorrect information from the website- DONE

2) Print a correction or retraction on our website to inform our readers- DOING THAT NOW

3) Provide them with the source of this misinformation, and any other  print or electronic media outlets to whom we have given this info, so they may similarly inform others of this mistaken information-DONE

So fellow baby boomers, we apologize for the misinformation to you and to Kmart and hope you will continue to read our blog anyway and shop at Kmart.

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My Husk


Sometimes I feel like my husk, my body, is getting ready to shed, leaving only “me”—my core, my soul, my essence—behind. And where will I be then? Or maybe the question should be, what happens to the core “me”? Some would say heaven or hell. Others would say the essence returns to the universe in some other form. Others say that “I” will be born again, perhaps as some lower being, perhaps as a more enlightened being. Some might believe that, after death on this planet, the soul returns to somewhere in space where it originated. All those ideas are attractive to me in some ways, but not completely satisfactory. I have a very hard time “believing” in anything that takes place after I’m gone from this earth. Even though I take on faith that electricity makes the light bulb glow, and I can’t see electricity. But then, almost everyone agrees (has been taught) about electricity. But not everyone agrees about what happens after the body, the husk, has been shucked.

My body, the body I’ve never been all that fond of, has proved to be much more resilient than I every imagined it could be. It has survived, although with considerable wear and tear, numerous and considerable assaults—from chemotherapy and radiation and immune disease and countless episodic drugs for infections and “conditions” like gastrointestinal upsets of various kinds. I should be more appreciative of this body, this husk that protects the real me, as best it can. There’s only so much an old husk (I am 70, after all) can do to beat off the many threats to its integrity. There comes a time when rejuvenation, or return to the original state, is no longer possible. That’s where my body is now. And I find myself (the real me) frustrated with this. I miss the good old days when I could come down with something and then get over it. There’s no getting over it anymore. As one of my friends says, now it’s just all patch, patch, patch. Making do with the “new normal”, which changes frequently as my body deals, successfully or not so much, with new challenges—new drugs, new problems in the body, new attitudes in the “real me.”

Lately, I’ve noticed that the general culture has picked up on the insight that positivity is a good thing. And that “being present” can relieve stress. So we have lots of platitudes posted on websites and sent in emails and embroidered on pillows and printed on greeting cards, and in fact, just about everywhere. Be here now. Smile, God loves you. Love is the answer. But I’m still stuck on shit happens! And that’s how I view the wearing down of my body, my husk. It’s just one of those things. Shit happens. And as to what will happen to me, my core, my essence when my body, my husk fails totally, well, it’s always good to have a little mystery in your life.

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Sadhvi Sez: Feeling the Squares and the Staples


It’s an interesting time on the planet, astrologically.  I mean, having Uranus and Pluto in a square is nothing to sneeze at.  I don’t know how you’re experiencing this, but the people close to me are dealing with lots of problems.  Like what used to be things that were coming up once a year or so has become a daily thing.
So it was nice to read what Sitara, and astrologer, had to say on this aspect, and if you click HERE you’ll be able to read it too.

What to expect?  A thrilling changeful time, full of surprises and mind-boggling turns. Whoever goes into it openly and flexibly will be richly rewarded. Security and consistency, however, will be available only for those who are ready to let go the known and search for what conforms to their very own insight – even if it contradicts all former experiences and understandings.”  Sitara

Hey, when times get intense, I turn to music.  Good music.

I can remember when we had parties in college, and someone got up to put an album on the record player, they’d ask, “What should I play?”
And we’d all say, “Somethin’ good”.
So when I recently asked a friend what her favorite music was in the moment, she said, “Oh, I’d have to say one thing I’ve seen and really enjoyed was The Band singing “The Weight” with the Staple Singers comes to mind – it’s good.”  So knowing her taste is the same as mine, I looked it up.  Sure enough, Melinda was right.
I’ve seen the movie, The Last Waltz, done by Martin Scorsese, but it’s been a while.  I suggest you watch the clip below, and if you don’t think it’s the best thing today, I will be surprised!
I hope you are taking some time to do things you like to do this Summer.

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Sadhvi Sez: It’s Summer!

Today is the official first day of Summer, so I thought I would take you on a little flower trip through my spring garden.

The Osho News site has done a nice job of taking my pictures and making them into a slide show.

This past Spring was truly more like summer, but since it is my favorite season, I really savor it, no matter how it’s served up by Mother Nature.  It’s kind of like life: I am starting to get into it more, enjoying the ride, really.  Maybe it’s the nice thing about getting older? You start to realize that it’s all about squeezing the juice out of life.  Just click on the picture of the flowers below and enjoy!

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Sadhvi Sez:


I don’t remember watching Mister Rogers when I was a kid.  I always thought he was kind of strange; his voice was too nice, the kind of voice that I didn’t trust.  It turns out that he was just being himself, and since he was on TV for such a long time (1968-2001) influencing a lot of kids, there must have been some magic in him.

He is no longer with us, but lives on thanks to  at PBS, who made this remix, and now, Mister Rogers has gone viral! 

  • The video has been viewed on YouTube more than 4 million times.  Last weekend it was the #1
  • On the PBS Facebook page, the video has been shared more than 3,400 times, has earned more than 2,000 likes and generated more than 160 comments.
  • Celebrities including Neil Patrick Harris, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Alyssa Milano, Morgan Spurlock and Guy Kawasaki have shared the video with their many Twitter followers.

I really liked it. Enjoy.

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