Now that I am definitely over 50, I have been thinking and really trying to figure out what it is that I like, and honestly, I cannot think of anything yet.
And since I don’t want to be thought of as a whiner, I won’t just write about what I don’t like, so I will just take a bit more time until I can come up with BOTH answers, OK?
I thought it might be interesting to ask other women and Yvette just happens to be the first one, so I hope you enjoy what she has to say.
Yvette, what do you like the most about being over 50?
I love seeing the maturation of my kids. I’m really enjoying what feels to me like a return on the investment of energy and self spent on parenting. I love seeing their characters, ideas and creativity begin to bloom into adulthood.
I’m so happy that they are such nice people.
Yvette, what do you like least about being a woman over 50?
What I like least about being over 50 is learning the lessons of letting go. It’s hard enough to let go of your children as they go off to college (luckily I still have one more at home for a few years…) and to let go of youthful beauty and shape, such as it ever was, and to let go of owning so much junk (I need to work on that but there’s time).
But there’s deeper letting go going on. I have only recently let go of thinking that there are interests and talents not yet developed that realistically just won’t grow at this time of life (for instance, I don’t think I will ever be the conductor of a major orchestra). It’s as if I can see the neural pruning happening right before my eyes! It time to let go of so much and focus on what I am doing best. It’s not that I’m inflexible or rigid in my path but rather that, well, for example in my younger days I was sure I could catch a whole bucket full of ping pong balls tossed in my direction. Now I know that focusing on and keeping my eye on one ping pong ball at least improves my chances of catching ONE instead of missing them all.
And in this hologram of existence I see that in the hard work of letting go I find a gift of the freedom of being let go which is both frightening and wonderful at the same time.
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